Letter from Mother: Principal Chen: Recently I have encountered some problems in the education of my son, please give me some guidance. 1, in order for my son to fall in love with reading, I insist on telling him stories before bed every day (for more than a year), and take him to the book almost every ten days (half a year). The current situation is that my son's reading is almost limited to when I tell stories, and he rarely reads books by himself in ordinary times. In kindergarten, he has some reading time by himself. According to the teacher, my son is easily influenced by other things and can only stick to his goal for 3-5 minutes. Some say that children before the age of 5 belong to the stage of listening to stories, is that right? And should we spend more time reading with him? Should he be taught to read by himself from now on? How to cultivate? How do you develop mindfulness? 2. You don't like drawing. Graffiti age does not love graffiti. When he was a year or two old, he liked to doodle, and I provided walls, paint, chalk, and paper. But after the age of three almost no painting, now tell him you can draw whatever you want to draw, he will pick up a pen to draw a few strokes, if you ask him what you draw he will answer casually (he will immediately see something and tell me that he drew it), should I send him to the interest class, or just give up or let it go? Or how to guide it? (I heard that it is not easy for children to participate in formal art learning before the age of 5, is the interest class suitable?) 3. Lack of patience. When playing with the toy track, he will not install or ask his mother Ann because the tight installation can not be installed, if I let him use his own brain or guidance, but still install it badly (sometimes just because he can not install it because of tight) he will lose his temper and shout one or two or even throw the track, if you do not help him, he will give up the installation. How should we encourage him, cultivate his patience? 4. Rebel. Guo Guo is a reasonable child, but he will deliberately rebel. I don't know, he doesn't seem to be rebelling against anything. He often gets up in the morning and says "no" if I say "no" (and go to great pains to explain why) and then starts saying "no" when I remind him what he should do (I think he should know what to get up for). What's going on here? What should I do? 5, in class or in a strange environment, the movement range is small, basically do not publish their own ideas. Usually do not take the initiative to greet people, even if he asked him to say his voice is also low (is this not enough self-confidence?) . I also encouraged him: 'Guoguo is the bravest man; If you do not tell others will not know; It doesn't matter if you say it wrong, people won't laugh at you; If the voice is low, others can not hear it is not equal to not say it, you see if you and the voice control light whisper it can hear it; ..." . If he says hello loudly, I praise him immediately, and I praise and hug him immediately for improving my introduction. And I do it every day. Sometimes in class will guide, but if I always say, Guoguo will not have dependence? Must he say hello to the teacher in class? Does a low voice mean he has to say it again? It turns out that Guoguo also has this kind of situation. The sustainable time is only two or three months, and this time it has been half a year.
Part One Happy beginning before 3 o 'clock, Guoguo and mother appeared at my door, ha ha, mother remembered the wrong time. Because I have not finished my work, I planned to play until 3:30. But in order to make the child have the best condition, I adjusted my work, tutoring from 3 o 'clock. Guoguo and mother came in happily, it seems that before the mother's communication work is done very well. The child was not at all unhappy to be left alone with me because he was going to be separated from his mother. It can also be seen that Guoguo's independence is good. After a happy goodbye to my mother, it was just the two of us. Seeing the water bottle mother left for Guoguo, our conversation began from it. "Guoguo, what's in the kettle?" "Water" Guoguo answered me, looking east and west, in the child's world is full of magic. "What kind of water is that?" "It's just water." Seeing Guoguo's interest in me, I simply asked him to tell me what things he knew in me. "Chairs, cups, computers..." He named ten things. He would talk about the trees outside the window, and I would remind him that I was talking about the inside, and then he would talk about everything perfectly. It seems that the child has a good grasp of the general knowledge of life. Continue to chat with him, he can tell his father's home address very accurately, the name of the kindergarten, the name of the class, the fire alarm, etc., the cognitive level should be very good. The most interesting thing was when I asked about the traffic lights, he said go green, stop red. I mean, what about the yellow light? He said "Go!" Oh, later learned that mother is sometimes like this. I told him to slow down when he saw a yellow light in the distance and stop. We had a very happy conversation, and my mother's departure did not affect Guoguo's mood at all. I opened the skin test report of the fruit stored in the computer. Sure enough, the proportion of interpersonal intelligence reached 23.89%. No wonder the child is in a very good mood, smiling and very pleasing. For example, later I asked him to tidy up the mess of the sofa, he repeatedly failed to do well, I constantly asked him to rework, he not only not unhappy, but also always happy, on this point many children can not do.
Every child is different and has its own characteristics, so educators or parents must not use a standard to measure. In my eyes, Guoguo must be a child who cannot be measured by the standards of the public. Because he moves slowly and doesn't speak very loudly. Smart, lively, clever, those words do not apply to him. However, when I have described the whole process, you will believe, as I do, that this is a wise, restrained kid with endless possibilities for the future. Before, I studied the skin pattern test report of Guoguo and found the answer to my mother's question about not liking drawing. The motor intelligence of Guoguo was 8.54%; Spatial intelligence is 8.39%. These two points may explain what the mother said about letting the child doodle at a young age, but the child still does not have much interest in the problem. The following picture is the one I asked him to draw, which he finished within 1 minute and said he did not want to draw any more. Asked what he painted, did not say, obviously not interested in this above. In addition, the ATD angles of his right and left hands are 45.68 and 41.22 respectively, which are in the medium range. The size of the ATD Angle is not related to intelligence but to responsiveness and acuity to learning. In the following observations, I will find that Guoguo is thoughtful about many questions before giving answers. Therefore, he can understand that he does not participate in the class many times or has a low voice. The smaller the ATD Angle, the higher the acuity of learning, but the more sensitive and emotional the person will be. The larger the ATD Angle, the acuity of learning is relatively weak, but people's emotions will be better. So there are two sides to every coin. The results of a skin test must not be used to judge a child. Skin tests just help us get to know our children better, so that we can truly teach them according to their aptitude. Since children's music, sports, and spatial intelligence account for a relatively small proportion in the eight major intelligence, some activities and games that may be related to them do not appear to be of much interest. For example, in the process, we played the coin game, I accidentally saw a 1 cent coin fell to the floor and stood up, I immediately let him see, he laughed with me. However, the next time I asked him to play the "coin stand" game with me, he did not want to, but with a little cunning put the coin between the two floors. However, when I told him it was illegal and encouraged him, he still put up two coins. It can be seen that some exercises in this area can still be strengthened as supplementary training after tomorrow. The development of musical emotional intelligence and left and right brain development that Guoguo has learned in Tongtong Tong for 3 years is very valuable. As for the doubts in other aspects, as a 3-year-old child, there is nothing special, the variables in the future are still relatively large, and more observation is still in accordance with scientific methods to guide and influence.
The third part is to break the cup, please compensate for the drawing, Guoguo was attracted by the tea set on my tea machine. I decided to let him play, to see what his interests were. This is a kung fu tea set, more expensive, in the family many parents will not let children play with these fragile products. But as Guoguo was very interested, I agreed to let him play. Just emphasized two points: "First, be careful not to break; Second, be careful not to spread water everywhere." He has been playing very well, and I have observed his concentration in the process of pouring the water and carrying the glass. After playing for about 15 minutes, he came up to me, and I asked him if he was still playing, and he said no. I said restore it or clean it up. He basically did. But at the end of the day, he dropped the lid of the cup to the ground, and I looked at it from a distance as if it had not broken, and he immediately picked it up from the ground and put it on the cup. But I obviously heard a bit of a cracking noise, the past check, sure enough, was dropped off a small piece. I thought about it and said to Guoguo, "Guoguo, look, here is you just broke, how to do?" Guoguo did not speak, I said, "broke the cup will pay for it, do you have money?" 'No! "Then when mom comes to pick it up, I let mom take the money to pay for it?" I watched his reaction, which was an excellent lesson in frustration, as well as his ability to think and deal with problems. His face was a little hurt, and I thought some of the children were crying by now. He shook his head. I said, "Well, don't you have several clothes in your bag? Keep one for me, will you?" He shook his head again, but had reverted to his usual cheerful expression. He blinked and suddenly said something that took me by surprise: "Can I pay for you with a rotten dress?" I am serious, he is also very serious to discuss the tone, not to say out of anger. "No, I don't want the clothes you don't want. I have good clothes!" "I'll give you one lousy dress, one with long sleeves." Must be which one has already thought of, hehe. I was satisfied with the ability of a three-and-a-half-year-old to react like that, and decided not to give him a hard time. But responsible education is necessary. "Guoguo, did you throw the cup lid on the ground on purpose?" 'No! "Well, then I forgive you. But you've broken the glass, and you'll have to make it up to me. Now give me a show!" Before the words fell, Guoguo had danced and performed a program I could not understand at all. "Oh, what are you performing?" I said a lot of words, I only heard a bear word. "Your little bear?" "HMM." "Well, you're through. Be more careful when you play with the cup in the future. Don't break it again." Later, when he played again, he was more careful, ha ha, so education in life is everywhere. These are real educational opportunities, many times more valuable than the lessons in the classroom.
Most children like to watch cartoons, so when Guoguo repeatedly asked me how to open the projection, I satisfied his curiosity and let him climb on the sofa with two more backs and open the projection by himself. He was excited and asked why there were no images. To encourage his labor and protect his curiosity, I connected the projection to the computer and released a cartoon. But I was somewhat surprised that, in general, most children are completely absorbed by the images and content of the cartoon as soon as they see it. However, Guoguo found that when the projection was cast on the wall, my computer monitor turned black. He asked me, "Why isn't it on the computer? Why is there no computer on the wall? Why is it on the computer and not on the wall?" I was a little surprised that he asked the question. But still answered him very seriously, "Because this is a single display?" "Why not double display?" He must have been concerned about the projection in our classroom, asking such a professional question. "Oh, I don't know, maybe it's my computer." I don't feel like I'm talking to a 3-year-old at all. "Oh, is it the connection?" The next question impressed me even more. This kid is likely to become an IT elite in the future. Heheh. Look, he's paying attention to a whole different set of kids. Later, he finished turning off the projection and kept asking me about the power supply. Which may have led me to another trait in him. These aspects, mother, please continue to observe and guide carefully.
Part 5 Money Sensitive Kids I took out some coins from the money management lessons for the senior kids in our successful Child incubation class. As soon as I opened it, I actually saw an excited expression on Guoguo's face, because most of the time he was very calm. I asked him one after another, and he wouldn't recognize most of them, but when I told him, he remembered them very quickly. And he took the initiative to play the "shopping game" with me with some excitement. The whole process, instead of him following my thinking, became me following his thinking. Oh, perhaps, it can be seen that Guoguo may be the child of high financial quotient. Mother can also pay more attention to this aspect in the future. Well, we'll talk about that later in the course.
Part 6 Good cognitive level In the process, I examined Guoguo can count from 1 to 100, can also recognize a lot of words, life knowledge is very good, as a 3-year-old child, the development should be excellent. Also, I ended up teaching him a nursery rhyme, which he had chosen himself in a book. It is called "Mice steal fish bones", the content is "kittens eat small fish, mice steal fish bones, put them on the mouse, to be a security door". This nursery rhyme is not easy to pronounce, and it does not rhyme. I was going to change it, but he insisted on learning it. To my surprise, he learned it very quickly. From this, I think Guoguo is quick to learn what he is interested in. Excellent learning ability. He even played it when mom came over. It was great. After 2 hours of tutoring, I have more confidence in Guoguo, my mother's 3 years of hard work is worth it, let us continue to work together in the next days. I believe that children will give us more surprises.
The reason why many children are ordinary is that their parents never think that their children will be excellent in the future!